USA Book Award | Legs Talk: A Modern Girl's Dating Tale

This morning I awoke to my normal routine: yoga, meditation and Yerba Mate tea - followed by email checking. That is when I discovered my funny gag gift book: Legs Talk: A Modern Girl's Dating Tale was a finalist in the USA Book News Award in the category of Gift and Specialty.

Amazingly the winners and finalist was announced in October while I was away in Thailand. So I didn't even know my book was finalist until today.

It is great to know that people actually enjoy my little get over a break up gem. It is my way of saying, “Girl it is okay to laugh at your bad relationships.” I know break ups can destroy us, I just wanted to create a book that pokes fun at break ups. Apparently the folks at USA Book News agrees.

Legs Talk: A Modern Girl's Dating Tale makes a good gift for your broken hearted girlfriend.

Having Trouble Getting Over Him?

The story is as common as air - boy meets girl, boy dates girl, girl falls for boy. Soon girl discovers boy only wants one thing. Girl gets sensible and shoots down, boy. Boy begs girl to take him back – he claims he will change. Foolishly, girl gives boy one more opportunity. Boy shows his true colors, girl hates herself for believing in boy.

In the end, girl is finally convinced the relationship is hopeless. Hence, girl wakes up from her love drunk trance and dumps the unworthy lout one last time. But she can’t stop thinking about him - still has a glimmer of hope. It is a story most women have lived through. If you are that girl, here are four suggestions to help you move on and get over him.

Throw yourself a break up bash.

Celebrate! Say goodbye to bad trash. Surround yourself with friends and unleash. Do all the dances you could not do if he was there. Get enraged, weep, laugh and have a few drinks. Eat chocolate and do not worry about your waistline. This is not the time for self examination – at least for the moment.

Go from crying to buying

It’s called retail therapy. Scientists are learning what shop-a-holics have known for a long time - the ultimate pick me up is to go shopping. Why not buy that bag you had your eye on? You know the one you didn’t buy because he would’ve implied that you are bad with money. But do not over do it, this form of therapy can get expensive.

Throw out everything that reminds you of him

First things first, stamp out all of his numbers from your mobile phone. While you are at it, eradicate his old emails. Second, throw away all those love letters, cards and gifts. Do not read them just one last time. Burn the cards and photographs, and give the gifts to charity. Rid yourself of all his memories - among other things – throw away the stained boxer shorts he left in your under your pillow. Finally, do not listen to the love songs that awaken memories of what could have been.

Do not contact him

Stand your ground - refuse to take his phone calls. Do not answer his emails or respond to his instant messages. No cyber-stalking on social networking sites. Stop driving by his house to see if his car is parked in the driveway, or to see if his room light is on at night. Don’t go back to places that you used to hang out together hoping you accidentally run into him. No! You can not be his friend, at least not until you are actually over him. Don’t play like you are over him, just so you can be his friend. He will know you are faking it.

To finish, you are not forsaken, we have all been there. Don’t try to forget him by having lots of sex. That will only confuse things. Don’t try to put pressure on yourself by reinventing yourself, or blaming yourself. Remember, the best way to get over someone is by getting on with your life, and living it well. Keep in mind time heals all bruise.